Marian Bacol Uba: Your shift. I don't know what it is and I decided to trust it. Dina Cataldo: Wow, wasn't Marian amazing? It will guide you in your quest to live fully, as the person you were meant to be. Dina Cataldo: Give us a couple of examples. And I think that's just what I overcame, and what I went through. So college, I was really happy because I finally was able to move out. What separates those who succumb and those who thrive? Marianne William and all these spiritual people, and all these other people who had gone through trauma, and I saw the pattern was meditation.
That said, I think this would be a very good resource for many people considering weight loss surgery - especially anyone who's got low self esteem or inferiority issues based on their obesity. Either you or someone you know is hurting right now. Our guest and I had a conversation about ways to cope with trauma, and one of them has to do with journaling, and using mantras. And that's a mantra and that's something I think over, and over, and over that I'm. When survivors become conscious of maladaptive mechanisms, they can change them.
Yet, I recognize and have to admit the instinctual human tendencies in me toward angry flare ups and murderous thoughts. Marian Bacol Uba: Yeah, for example, what is the most important step I need to do today to move me forward in my purpose? When I was in college, I barely slept over at my parent's house. Marian Bacol Uba: No, I never went to do like a 12 step recovery. Some people navigate , or and manage the turmoil without seeking professional assistance. And I chose to come back, and I went back into that space and time, like right before they called the ambulance. It's really the thriver part, like what we can do now to heal.
So, I grew up very fast. You can choose to continue down this road of unhappiness or depression whatever or you can chose to do something to change your mindset and to change the way that your reality will become. My balcony overlooks water, and I can never be ungrateful. Fortunately, the division between her commentary and the first-person stories is very clear so it's easy to decide whether or not to read her fluff. I don't really remember much of a childhood for me. A: concepts definitely can be applied here, as every survivor retains the freedom of his or her mind and can create in that space the life-affirming perspective that opens the door to survival and creating a functional — even joyful — life after trauma. For me, it wasn't always to really do it for fun.
I ended up in the hospital because I had eating problems, I had ulcers when I was a kid. I was still a straight A student, and … what people thought … I was in volleyball, I was part of the church choir, I was class president, and then every chance I got, I actually snuck out and I started doing ecstasy and weed and drinking, because for me that was my escape from reality. Dina Cataldo: Do you use any prompts for your journaling? I knew that I would survive no matter what. I thought, if anyone would be able to help me or save me, it'd be my mother, and that didn't happen. .
Dina Cataldo: Before we start diving into your story, I'd like you to introduce people to who you are right now. It's too good to be true, he's gonna want something. But every time it would get triggered, I would just drink or do drugs to forget about it. So, I created this quick sheet to work through some of the things that we talked about. And mediation was the first time I went inward, and I went to me.
So, can you tell us that transition into college and beyond? They did not consider failure as an option. When I was at that point, and the times where I've been suicidal, it's because I don't want to burden people. Every day, even though something happens or I feel whatever, I look out and I just feel instantly calm, energized, all of the above. Like that wasn't right, I felt it, but I didn't know what to do. I'm doing well in school, and career, all this. I don't need to know what it was like to be teased, or abused, or a binge eater, or grow up in a dysfunctional family - I've lived all of that.
May you be especially blessed during this holiday season. Marian Bacol Uba: So, I was home alone a lot, either with my father, or just really home alone in general because at that time they couldn't afford babysitters so much. Marian Bacol Uba: I look back and I'm just like in awe, in gratitude that I've even come this far. For example, Peg Nosek created a health care program for disabled women who use wheelchairs. Many people spend their whole lives working in careers that utilize the skills derived from the executive functioning parts of their brains.
Marian Bacol Uba: Because I went there a few months prior to visit a friend. I actually tried telling my mom when I was 14, and she didn't believe me. And what we can do to really change our lives for the better, and thrive. It's going to be good. Because I was powerless when I was under 18, I'm still living under their roof.
Marian Bacol Uba: Yeah, I think one of the books that really changed … that made things so differently, that was so amazing to me was Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. I felt like I always heard my parents, especially my mom, telling me that school was everything. My mind wouldn't go to those places. I think she's just always been in denial. Because for me that anger and that resentment and all those heavy energies they were just hurting me. I never really felt like a child.